The majority are excited and ask questions and want to know more (like so many of you).
There are a some that simply say "Congrats".
And yet there are few who tell us "How nice", but then add the comment "Maybe someday you'll have one of your own."
Whether they say this out of pity or ignorance, I do not know. Do they not realize those words are like a stab to the heart? (and bring out my protective Mama instincts - big time)
If only they could look into our hearts.
They would understand....
....that this child could not be any more our own.
....that adoption is not 2nd choice, 2nd best.
....that I give thanks for each and every one of those months that we did not get pregnant. Because without them, we would not be on this journey at this time to this child, our child.
....that I am the one who feels sorry for them, for they will never know the miracle of adoption.
....that I can say without hesitation that this child is the child our hearts have desired since the day we were married.
....that I could not have planned our journey to parenthood any more perfectly. That I wouldn't change a single thing.
....that we are humbled by God's gifts and plan for us.
....that we are giddy with excitement.
....that even though I have not seen our child's face or felt his kicks or heard his little heartbeat, the love I have for our child is beyond measure.
....that the love I already have for our baby takes my breath away.
....that even if I said all of this, there certainly are not enough words to describe how Josh and I feel.
But, unfortunately, they cannot see into our hearts.
So please pray that we have the grace to answer such comments with God-pleasing answers. That their eyes & hearts will be opened.
Thank you for following the journey to our child. We are so blessed.
Love to you all,
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