My son is 2 years old. And his life story is already very full.
Full of loss and joy. Details and memories. Facts and unknowns.
Most of all, it's a story full of love.
Josiah YeJoon's story didn't begin with us, so I collect and savor as many snippets and pieces as I possibly can from referral documents, photos, conversations with his foster family and social worker, and from our time in Korea.
Si is young, but definitely not too young to start to hear his story.
I wanted to make something for him that would help with this. A tool that would help him begin to understand what has happened in his life so far. I knew it would be invaluable for Si to have something tangible to hold and touch and see as we talked about his adoption now and in the future.
A few months ago I put together a little book for him. It is nothing fancy....I simply printed photos and short paragraphs, laminated the pages, and used book rings to hold it together.
As far as the content, I kept it simple, truthful, and age appropriate.
It begins with his birth and shares a few details of his birth parents. His foster parents are included, of course, and why they are so very special.
Other pages of the book share the process of how we came to be a family....how we prayed for him and his referral and meeting in ESWS's playroom. The book talks about how wonderful Korea is, how sad it was to leave that place, and how we will go back one day soon.
The overwhelming message of Josiah's little book is that he is loved immeasurably by so many - by us, by his foster parents, by his birth parents. Most importantly, he is loved by an amazing God - the God who created Si and choose him to be His very own.
Si's book is always out in our living room. It's played with, looked at, and read every single day. The cover is starting to become crinkled and some of the pages are smudged, but it doesn't matter one bit.....because this little book helps us to easily and naturally chat about Si's story in our every day life. I would be sad if those moments were lost in the busy shuffle of our day!
He knows that the book is special. He knows that it is his. He absolutely loves it.
In the near future, my goal is to put together a more detailed life book for Josiah. Perhaps a binder-type book that we can add information to as he grows and matures. Something he can draw in and write his own thoughts in, too. We don't have much information on his life before us, but we do have some and I want all of it to be in one place for him.
Each tiny piece of info is precious and important and a blessing. I pray for the possibility of more snippets of his story coming to light in the future.....even if that is unlikely.
For now, though, this book serves a great purpose. In it, Josiah is the star! He's reminded that he is special. He is resilient and strong. He is precious.
He is loved.
If you are an adoptive parent, does your child have a book similar to Josiah's? Is there a unique way that you share your child's story with him/her?